原稿:柯志恩

第一条 绝对冷静

唯有冷静才能让你的大脑保持正常运作

千万不要被孩子的哭声或尖叫声而失去妳的定力，不被孩子的情緒所左右。

第二条  绝对优雅

不要做黄脸婆，要保持优雅的气质

出外时，让孩子自己处理自己的东西，孩子是需要磨炼的，未來才能走得远。

第三条  绝不多做

多做只会令孩子少得

任何事情，只要尽本份就成了，帮孩子多做，剝夺孩子学习的机会。凡事克制一点，不要求完美，也不要手癢。

第四条 绝不心软

孩子的泪水有时是一种武器

千万不要被孩子的泪水給软化了。孩子做错了,就得承担后果,以后才不会重犯。不要以为孩子没有你不行,只要你一消失，孩子的独立就出来了。

第五条 永不妥协

纵容孩子只会让他继续幼稚

千万不要被孩子的耍赖、哭闹而妥协买下他要的玩具。坚 持跟他沟通和讲道理，双方达成共识。

第六条  动口不动手

你只要喊 “ 加油！”

孩子写得不好，做得不好，表示还有进步的空间，要鼓励和激励。千万不要代他做，把他推向最好的成绩，他会感受压力和挫折感。

第七条  放手不缩手

给孩子空间去思考和作决定

孩子不是你的专属物，你可以给他无限的爱，但不能给他你的思想和方向。

第八条  绝不介入

悉心聆听，意见中肯

千万別介入孩子们的爭纷；或到学校去为孩子出头。让孩子把事情交代清楚，再给于中肯的分析，让孩子学习怎样与人相处和解决难题。

第九条  拒绝得奖

辛苦付出未必得到回报

千万不要和「模范母亲」或「模范家庭」的奖有任何关联。它们都是表彰那些「含莘茹苦抚养孩子长大成人」的人，你不需那么伟大。

第十条  拒绝完美

世上有完美的事吗？

完美代表标准高、压力大、不犯错、强出头、健康差、不平衡，但却不见[ 成就高 ] 或 [ 快乐美满 ]。

1. I treat others the way I want them to treat me.
2. It is okay to laugh at funny things, but not to laugh at others.
3. When I am sad, I help myself feel better by thinking of things that are good in my life.
4. I believe that I am someone who can do important things.
5. I appreciate my family, my teachers, and my school.
6. I treat everyone with respect.
7. When I listen, I show others that I care about them.
8. I am being a good citizen when I volunteer to help others.
9. I think for myself and make smart choices that are good for me.
10. I try to understand what my friends are feeling.
11. Everyone makes mistakes, so instead of getting angry with myself, I try to do better.
12. I do not give up; I keep trying until I can do my work.
13. Sharing with others makes me feel good and makes them feel good too.
14. I am being polite when I wait for my turn and say please and thank you.
15. When I smile at people, they usually smile back.
16. I encourage my friends to do their best.
17. I am honest; I do not cheat or steal.
18. When I do what I say I will do, I am being responsible.
19. When things do not go my way, I stop and think of what I can do to make them better.
20. I take care of myself by eating healthy food, exercising and getting enough rest.
21. I am being punctual when I am on time and do not keep people waiting.
22. When I cooperate with others, I get more done.
23. I follow the rules and try to make my school a better place.
24. I like to get to know children who are different from me.
25. Since I tell the truth, my friends trust me.
26. I look for what is good in others and I say what I like about them.
27. Using manners helps me keep my friends.
28. I have courage to stand up for children who are teased.
29. Before I do something, I ask myself, “Is it safe?”
30. I care about living things on earth so I recycle and do not litter.

What are parents most afraid of at the moment?

Is it Bird flu? Hand-foot-mouth disease? Kidnapping?

No. 

It’s the increasing cases of Influenza A/H1N1 in Klang Valley. With no more than 1% fatal rate, lower than death cases in road accidents, people are still very concerned.

Parent A: There is a case in Sg Buluh Hospital now. I’m so worried. Should I send my child to school?

Parent B: Are you going to stop the sick children from attending school? Who knows if they are infected?

Parent C: You guys should clean the school properly. Make sure the children wash their hands frequently and don’t touch each other.

Parent D: Why don’t you measure everyone’s temperature at the school gate every morning?

Parent E: There is a number of school closure. H1N1 is spreading vigorously. What do you do for prevention?

Since this epedemic of influenza A/H1N1 passes from person to person, from one airport to another, our country has set off the alarm by tracking the cases closely. Still, the best way to deal with it is to cut off all human contacts. 

In a nut shell, zero human contact leads to 100% prevention of the disease. This is the same theory as birth control. Abstinence from sex leads to 100% prevention of pregnancy.

However is this theory feasible?

Certainly not.  

Children’s contacts are not limited to friends and teachers at school, but also their parents, siblings and other relatives who live in the same household. Their parents’ contacts are not limited to their family members, but also their bosses, colleagues, clients, strangers they meet in the shop and on the road.

Can we stop the parents from touching the children? Can we stop going to work? Can we stop shopping for daily needs?

At this stage, fighting H1N1 is not about refraining everyone from contacting us. Fighting H1N1 strongly relies on responsible behaviour of individuals and transparency of information in the society.

The government has set directive to implement 7-day house quarantine for those who are from the infected countries, the infected patients, and people who have contact with the infected patients. We must obey the rules. If we are infected with influenza A/H1N1 we must notify the health authorities and the related parties. We must not hide anything.

If there is a case in the preschool, we will notify everyone in the school and take immediate and appropriate action to cut off the connections. But if we do not have a case, we will behave normal and not overwhelmed by this issue. This includes practising environment and personal hygiene as well as keeping an eye on the children at all times.